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This woman has been controlling my life and disrespecting me for 14 years. We've been married for 20 years. She's bossy. She brags about her career and put mine down(she's a lawyer and I'm a garbage man). She never invites me to any of the fancy functions her firm holds. And she makes all the decisions concerning our 13 year old daughter. My daughter is interested in softball but my wife forces her to take piano lessons and ballet.

I don't get a say in ANYTHING. She's even been buying vegetarian groceries lately and forcing us to comply with a "no meat" rule just because that's what she's been practicing for a year now. It's ridiculous. Without sounding harsh, how do I put my foot down and remind her that *I* should be wearing the pants in this family? I want her to start listening to me more, including me in ALL of the household decisions, acting more like a wife than a dictator and giving me an enthusiastic BJ every night before bed. Is that too unreasonable?